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This definitely can be a touchy and controversial topic. I think it easier as a single person though. If I was married, then friends should be a "friend of the marriage". However, when you meet someone later in life, the partner must realize that you had a life before you met them. My hope is that it posed a question for discussion and not necessarily a definitive answer, because everyone has different views and sensitivity levels on this topic.
As far as the GENTLEMAN issue. That is universally appropriate and desirable behavior regardless of whether a man is single, married or attached.
You don't stop being a gentleman to women because you married another woman.
MUST READ Backstory and disclosure here: I knew her in college from decades ago. We went through periods of friendly socializing over the yrs to intimacy to socializing again. So it has been back and forth for years. I do believe in the principle that if a man is not having sex with a woman, then you are nothing but one of her girlfriends. So the "dance" you see in the video between the two of us has a history of on and off intimacy, which takes the pressure off of both. I'm not running to the altar, neither is she. But there was sexual attraction and energy that has been fulfilled. So neither is trying to "win over" anyone because we've already been there and have some road miles on us. I am not going to marry her. She is not going to marry me. So the bottom line is, we simply enjoy each other whether it has been intimate or just meeting for a bite to eat. The activity doesn't "have to" lead to the bedroom because it has already gone there.
