Empathy Rollo Tomassi The Rational Male Demonstrated by a Wife on FB to her Husband So sad. Rollo Tomassi The Rational Male wrote about this! http://therationalmale.com/2013/11/13/empathy/
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November 13, 2013
Empathy
By Rollo Tomassi
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Deti, from a recent Just Four Guys comment thread:
Women cannot bear to see a Man experiencing negative emotions such as extreme anger, rage, fear, despair, despondency or depression for extended periods of time. You say you want to "be there" for your Man; but you cannot do it. If it goes on long enough, it kills the attraction; it sets off your hypergamy alarms; and subconsciously causes you to start hunting for a replacement Man.
A woman seeing a Male go through the above will seek to replace that Male immediately.
Women cannot listen to Men talking about or working out their dating/mating/relationship issues or problems. Women reflexively view a Man discussing such issues as "whining" or "complaining" or "bitterness" or "sour grapes" or "well, you just chose poorly, so sucks to be you" or "suck it up, no one wants to hear you bitching about it".
Sack up ya big pansy!
This has been a pretty consistent theme for Mrs. Tomassi -- and every single woman I'd been involved with before her -- women don't want to accept that their Man could ever be incapacitated. Before I was Game-aware, I took this with a grain of salt. My wife has been a medical professional since she was in her early 20′s and she's seen some pretty gnarly shit in various trauma centers so I had to take that into consideration. There's a certain disconnect from human suffering in that line of work that has to be made or you lose it -- I get that -- but that still didn't account for the default indifference to pain most every other female I know, including my own daughter and mother had ever had with regards to a man in legitimate physical pain.
The Mother-Nurturer Myth
One of the classic perceptions women, and even well-meaning men, perpetuate is the idea that women are the nurturers of humanity. They take care of the children, home and hearth. Theirs is the realm of the private and men's that of the public -- in fact this was one impression that early feminism took as its primary target, they wanted it all, private and public. Despite the statistics about abortion, despite the realities of Hypergamy and the War Brides dynamic, the classic characterization of woman as mother, nurturer, nurse and caregiver have endured, even as a complement to the Strong Independent® characterization feminism would reimagine for women.
Perhaps it's due to a deeply enrgamatic hard-wiring of the importance of hypergamy into the feminine's psychological firmware, but women cannot accept that any man, and in particular a Man worth considering as a suitable hypergamic pairing, might ever be incapacitated. The feminine subconscious refuses to acknowledge even the possibility of this. Perpetuating the species and ensuring the nurturing her offspring maybe part of her pysche's hard-code, but ensuring the survival and provisioning of her mate is not. This isn't to say that women can't learn (by necessity) to assist in her mate's wellbeing, it's just not what evolution has programmed her for -- it requires effort on her part.
I propose this because women's solipsistic nature (predicated on hypergamy) necessarily excludes them from empathizing with the male experience -- and this extends to men's legitimate pain. The idea that a man, the man her hypergamy betted its genetic inheritance on for protection and provisioning, could be so incapacitated that she would have to provide him with protection and provisioning is so counter-valent to the feminine imperative that the feminine psyche evolved psychological defenses ("men are just big babies when it comes to pain") against even considering the possibility of it. Thus, due to species-beneficial hypergamy, women fundamentally lack the capacity to empathize with the male experience, and male pain.
